Marriage has a great refining and moralizing tendency. Nearly all the debauchery and crime
is committed by unmarried men, or by those who have wives equal to none, at least to them.
When a man marries early, and uses prudence in choosing a suitable companion, he is likely
to lead a virtuous, happy life. But in an unmarried state, all alluring vices have a tendency to
draw him away. We notice in the state penitentiary reports that nearly all the criminals are
bachelors. The more married men you have, the fewer crimes there will be. Marriage renders
a man more virtuous and more wise. An unmarried man is but half of a perfect being, and it
requires the other half to make things right; and it cannot be expected that in this imperfect
state he can keep straight in the path of rectitude any more than a boat with one oar can keep
a straight course. In nine cases out of ten, where married men become drunkards, or where
they commit crimes against the peace of the community, the foundation of these acts was laid
while ina single state, or where the wife is, as is sometimes the case, an unsuitable match.
Marriage changes the current of a man's feelings and gives him a centre for his thoughts, his
affections and his acts.
If it were intended for man to be single, there would be no harm in remaining so; and, on the
other hand, it would become a crime if any persons would unite and live as wedded. But, since
this is not the Divine law, it is a sin and crime if healthful men and women do not marry, and
live as they were designed to live.
Marriage is a school and exercise of virtue; and though marriage have cares, yet single life
has desires, which are more troublesome and more dangerous, and often end in sin; while the
cares are but exercises of piety; and, therefore, if the single life have more privacy of
devotion, yet marriage has more variety of it, and is an exercise of more graces. Marriage is
the proper scene of piety and patience, of the duty of parents and the charity of relations;
here kindness is spread abroad, and love is united and made firm as a centre. Marriage is the
nursery of heaven. The virgin sends prayers to God; but she carries but one soul to him; but
the state of her marriage fills up the numbers of the elect, and has in it the labor of love, and
the delicacies of friendship, the blessings of society, and the union of hearts and hands. It has
in it more safety than the single life; it has more care, it is more merry and more sad; is fuller
of sorrow and fuller of joys; it lies under more burdens, but is supported by all the strength of
love and charity which makes those burdens delightful. Marriage is the mother of the world,
and preserves kingdoms, and fills cities, and churches, and heaven itself, and is that state of
good things to which God has designed the present constitution of the world.
We advise every young man to get married. The chances are better by fifty per cent, all
through life, in every respect. There is no tear shed for the old bachelor; there is no ready
hand and kind heart to cheer him in his loneliness and bereavement; there is none in whose
eyes he can see himself reflected, and from whose lips he can receive the unfailing assurances
of care and love. He may be courted for his money; he may eat and drink and revel; and he
may sicken and die in a hotel or a garret, with plenty of attendants about him, like so many
cormorants waiting for their prey; but he will never know the comforts of the domestic
The guardians of the Holborn Union lately advertised for candidates to fill the situation of
engineer at the work-house, a single man, a wife not being allowed to reside on the premises.
Twenty-one candidates presented themselves, but it was found that as to testimonials,
character, workmanship, and appearance, the best men were all married men. The guardians
had therefore to elect a married man.
A man who avoids matrimony on account of the cares of wedded life, cuts himself off from a
great blessing for fear of a trifling annoyance. He rivals the wiseacre who secured himself
against corns by having his legs amputated. Bachelor brother, there cannot, by any
possibility, be a home where there is no wife. To talk of a home without love, we might as well
expect to find an American fireside in one of the pyramids of Egypt.
There is a world of wisdom in the following: "Every schoolboy knows that a kite would not fly
unless it had a string tying it down. It is just so in life. The man who is tied down by
half-a-dozen blooming responsibilities and their mother, will make a higher and stronger
flight than any bachelor, who, having nothing to keep him steady, is always floundering in the
mud. If you want to ascend in the world, tie yourself to somebody."
The Royal Path of Life - Aims and Aids to Success and Happiness - 1882 by T.L. Haines & L.W. Yaggy